I’ve talked a lot about finding your people, about finding
people who will support you and give you the strength you need to keep going.
And I’ve also talked about walking away: about shedding influences on your life with are detrimental to you.
What happens when those two things collide? When you find
your people (whether they be fellow writers, fellow actors, fellow musicians,
fellow mathematicians, whatever), but they’re stoppering up your art? They
might not be doing it on purpose, or maybe they are. For whatever reason, you’ve
found your people and simultaneously lost your art.
So you decide to walk away.
Now what? You’re alone, and the only way to not be alone is
to turn back to something destructive to you.
It seems like you’re stuck, doesn’t it? I’ve been there
before. There is, however a simple solution: you keep going. You go
alone.
Looking Back, not Going Back
There’s a lot of inspirational quotes out there about “never
looking back, only ahead”, and I think they’re foolish. If you never look back
on your life, you’ll never learn and you’ll go through life making the same
mistakes.
So, when you walk away, when you go it alone, remember to look back. It can get hard,
at times, to go through a period of life alone. It’s hard to create art alone,
sometimes. So look back: look back and remember why you chose to do this alone.
Never forget: creating
art alone is temporary. When we walk alone, we’re not doing it forever.
Someday, you’re going to stumble upon someone who is also going it alone, and
then you’ll go together. You’ll find new people, new ways to find support and strength.
If you’re currently going it alone, look back, but don’t go back. When you find yourself becoming
desperate for those times when you had your own people (stifling or no), choose
to look back at the things you learned,
and then continue forward. Don’t go back to those times, even as you look on
them. Instead, learn to move forward.
Even if it’s by yourself.
Looking for ways to Learn
What’s the point in creating art alone? I mean, if no one
else is going to see the art I make, why make it at all? I know a lot of people
who have that kind of thought all the time, and I’ve thought about it before as
well: why do I write books I won’t ever let anyone else read? Why write what
people will never see?
The times we create
art alone are the times we learn the most. When it comes to writing, the
best way to learn how to write is to simply write.
If we don’t have to worry about an audience, we’ll just learn. Going it alone isn’t very fun, sometimes, but it is a great
time to learn.
The same going for all other kinds of art: even the art of
life. Sometimes, we just need to be alone so we can be free to learn.
Finding Contentment
We’re all in different places in life. Right at this moment,
you may be surrounded by supportive people, or you may be flourishing on your
own, or you may even be struggling to through off the hampering influence of
detrimental relationships and situations.
Whatever your part in life you may feel you have, the
hardest part is finding contentment.
For me, I’m currently in this weird transition stage between
striving to create art alone, and being surrounded by supportive people with
the same strengths and weaknesses and struggles and hopes. It’s strange, at
times, to consider how many people I have rooting for me, when just a few years
ago I really had no one (beyond my close family, who really had no idea). I
consider myself blessed. At the same time, it’s also a challenge because so
many people actually care about my
art that they want to see it.
It’s a challenge because they’re asking me to be vulnerable
(whether they realize it or not). It’s a personal struggle, learning to
overcome that hesitancy.
But I’m learning.
I’m learning and I’m growing to be content.
And so do you. Wherever you are, you can become content. Content in being alone, knowing that someday
you’ll find someone. Content in walking away, knowing that walking through art
alone isn’t always a bad thing.
Content in the people you’ve found, knowing that their strengths are greater
than their flaws.
Not to focus on something that wasn't the point of the post but... "look back, but don’t go back"
ReplyDeleteWords of wisdom people.
Words. Of. Wisdom.
Mm mm
DeleteAnd I mean that was sort of the point of the post so it works. XD